A common phenomenon that occurs in married women, and especially moms, is the gradual loss of any sense of fashion. Of course, this is usually completely unintentional, it’s just that, well, life gets in the way. It tends to start slowly, creeping up behind you without your noticing as you rush out of the house in a sweatshirt specked with baby drool, and then grows with you- your old pair of jeans are still your everyday attire, but they are unrecognizable; they’re stretched out and faded and pull and sag in all the wrong places. While this sad turn of events is natural, you don’t have to sit back and let it happen. Here are a few practical ideas for updating your look in an easy, affordable way:
1. Ditch the knapsack. Yes, they are incredibly convenient for new moms, as they have enough space to store a small nursery, but there are other, more fashionable ways to carry your diapers, change of clothes, bottles, snacks, cellphones etc. Why not try a big side bag, or even a stylish diaper bag?
2. Aging, giving birth and just being a mom can all have an effect on your body. Often, women are too stressed or to helpless to do anything about the changes to their physical appearance. Exercise is a must-have in every mother’s life- it alleviates stress, boosts your health and physical look as well. It is a known fact that exercise also releases “happy” hormones, so get on that treadmill, join a gym, jump rope, go for a swim- choose whatever activity you can stick with.
3. The clothes you wear ARE important. Old work pants, old aerobic shoes, floppy, oversized sweatshirts- these are not flattering articles of clothing! If you get lazy about your clothes, and stop caring about how you look, so will others. Sometimes women feel like this is easier, but if you are being honest with yourself, of course you still want your husband to find you attractive, and to tell you so, as well. If your jeans are worn out and saggy- it’s time to get new ones. Sizes change throughout a lifetime; accept it, and you’ll look and feel much better. Are you still wearing those old sneakers? Treat yourself to one or two new pairs of shoes. Stop wearing your husband’s sweatshirt every day. Occasionally it can be cute, but not all the time. If you do go on a shopping spree, maybe surprise your husband with an after-work date to show off those new heels!
4. Lastly, it is extremely important to indulge in guilty pleasures every so often. Not only will your nails, feet, eyebrows, hair or face look healthier, your husband will be happier, and so will you. The goings-on of everyday life can be very stressful, especially for a mom, and often there is no time to spend on yourself. Your sleep pattern gets rearranged on a nightly basis, your main food source becomes pretzels that are grabbed while you run out the door for carpool…basically, your life is one big hectic race. Set a date each month for your personal sanity, and for at least a few hours, do something that you’ve been meaning to do. Go to a movie, go for a manicure… If you have no time to go to a beauty salon, there are plenty of do-it-yourself products available in drug stores- maybe buy a hair mask and turn that stringy, shapeless ponytail into a glossy new mane. It will make your week, you’ll see.